Hi my name is Tammy I am a SAHM of three kids a daughter who will be 14 in about 5 weeks, a son who is 8 1/2 and Garrett who will be 10 in about 2 months. Garrett is our special needs child. Garrett has a long list of problems and complications. He has ADHD, BiPolar, OCD, IBS, and developmental dealys...
For a couple of years Garrett was medicated..However now he is NOT..On medications (trust me we have been through many) Garrett lost weight and wasa extremely thin he was weak and had diminshed muscle capasity on his left side..He had numerous "manic episodes" per day including beating his head on walls and floors distroying things peeing everywhere. He was a mess he did not eat and did not sleep there for they continued to adjust, change and add medications and things never seemed to get better..Finally not only for our own mental heath but for Garretts health we took him off all medicines..
AT first we didn't tell the school. Later we did and there was no problems they only asked if the dr was aware of his no longer being medicated..NOW 2 years later it is a problem...
Garrett has never really been a behaovral problem at school as MOST of the teachers have been half way decent about listening to my suggestions on how best to deal with Garrett....Now however we have gotten a teacher who sees having to deal with Garrett a burden and the school is refusing to switch his class (Garrett is in the 3rd grade)
Now the school is trying to pressure us into medicating him....................NOT HAPPENING!!
I need information if anyone knows where I can find it...
about a parents rights NOT to medicate
schools pushing medication
no tolereance policy and special needs kids
etc
Thanks so much
Tammy
For a couple of years Garrett was medicated..However now he is NOT..On medications (trust me we have been through many) Garrett lost weight and wasa extremely thin he was weak and had diminshed muscle capasity on his left side..He had numerous "manic episodes" per day including beating his head on walls and floors distroying things peeing everywhere. He was a mess he did not eat and did not sleep there for they continued to adjust, change and add medications and things never seemed to get better..Finally not only for our own mental heath but for Garretts health we took him off all medicines..
AT first we didn't tell the school. Later we did and there was no problems they only asked if the dr was aware of his no longer being medicated..NOW 2 years later it is a problem...
Garrett has never really been a behaovral problem at school as MOST of the teachers have been half way decent about listening to my suggestions on how best to deal with Garrett....Now however we have gotten a teacher who sees having to deal with Garrett a burden and the school is refusing to switch his class (Garrett is in the 3rd grade)
Now the school is trying to pressure us into medicating him....................NOT HAPPENING!!
I need information if anyone knows where I can find it...
about a parents rights NOT to medicate
schools pushing medication
no tolereance policy and special needs kids
etc
Thanks so much
Tammy
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Re: New here...Questions...need help...
Mon, November 27, 2006 - 1:58 PMdon't medicate!!!
it is your decision,not the school's,don't ever let anyone tell you whats best for your kid!
all kids have behavior issues from time to time,not just the special ones.
stick by your choices,get an advocate from the PTA to help back you up,if you can.
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Re: New here...Questions...need help...
Mon, November 27, 2006 - 7:44 PMsee if you can find the SPED/children's advocacy group that serves people in you area. Try calling county mental health or social services for a referral/listing. Also, get familiar with the SPED laws for your state. A little knowledge goes a long way - start with LRE (least restrictive environment) and FAPE (free appropriate public education).
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Re: New here...Questions...need help...
Tue, November 28, 2006 - 9:51 AMOnly the legal guardians of a child can decide to medicate him. There is no possible legal way that your school can require that you have him medicated. Does he have a proper diagnosis that is on the Autism spectrum? It seems that when you classify a kid as "autistic", the school is a little more willing to work with you as opposed to just telling you that you kid "has problems". Does he have an IEP? -
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Re: New here...Questions...need help...
Tue, November 28, 2006 - 11:46 AMI would be very careful.
Advocacy is essential, be able to reference your Legal Rights with the written Law.
If this teacher is adamant, she could call in Child Protective Services because you are not medicating him, I know that sounds absurd, but people who do not want to deal with exceptions sometimes misuse Social Services. I work at a hospital and see all sorts of strange stuff, I am not trying to frighten you, I would just be prepared for there offensive.
Learn your rights as soon as possible, so there are no suprises.
And by the way, good luck, I hope you are able to get him into another class, or find a solution.
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Re: New here...Questions...need help...
Mon, December 4, 2006 - 4:58 PMDoes your child have a behavior plan? He needs one and has the right to one. There is a great web-site called Wright's Law. (google it.) I just read an article there recently about behavior plans. This web site is created and run by two Disability Rights Lawyers who are fantastic at explaining the law. You can ask them a question and they'll respond. There's also an archive so it's possible someone else has had to deal with this same question and you can see what they did.
Call an IEP. You have the right to do that any time. Sit down and talk to the school to try and figure this out in a non-combative way. I know it's hard (believe me!) but you've got to try and get them to understand why you chose not to medicate your child. Creating, or updating, the behavior plan will also help the teacher understand what to do and will make everything clear. Also, bring someone to help you. It's very hard to advocate for your own child. I do LOTS of advocacy work, but when it comes to my own child, I need help setting my emotions aside to communicate effectively. Contact the special education office in your district. They should have a liaison to help you. Even a friend who can take notes or coach you ahead of time really helps.
Just a few ideas. Hope it helps.